"I started reading your blog around the time you started courting. Congrats for your anniversary! Just wondering...why you don't hold hands?? I understand the whole purity thing. But what's wrong with holding hands? You look like you just met. Is this your decision or your parents? Just curious."
I recieved this comment today and thought it would make a great post! I want to say thank you to the lady who asked!
First off- There is nothing wrong in and of itself with holding hands. I guess you could go on to say a hug isn't "wrong" or a kiss on the cheek isn't "wrong" either.
When Justin and I first started courting we laid down some rules for ourselves. We decided together that we would not hold hands, and we even decided to drop hand shaking.
Our decision was first and foremost to keep ourselves pure. Less temptation equals less risk.
A second reason was the College rules were very explicit anyways for courting/dating couples.... guys don't touch the girls, girls don't touch the guys.
Our Parents also support our decision.
It is our decision though, even when college is on summer break we don't hold hands.
There have been times I wish we could, --I will be honest and admit it!
We went to a fair with Justin's family and friends last year and there were so many people and I kept getting separated from everyone in our group! Justin chuckled later when he found me ...again... "too bad we don't hold hands, then I could at least stop looking for you every ten minutes!"
But, this is our decision, and I am glad we made it. I know we will have no regrets for doing it this way.
I know there are couples who do hold hands, but if this is what they are decided upon and there parents have okayed, I won't judge them. Every courtship is unique!!
And that's the best part anyways!